To understand Narcissistic abuse you got to know the
definition of narcissistic personality disorder.
Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder always
all the time believe that the world revolves around them.
They have inflated self-image, over confident, they are
unable to empathize with others, unable to accept any
constructive criticism, they are highly manipulative,
and perfectionist and list go on.
To understand more, you got to know the symptoms
of narcissistic individual and below are some that you are reading:
Symptoms
1-Individual will react to any constructive criticism with anger
2- Uses others to reach his or her planned goal.
3- Emphasize and exaggerates own importance
4- Emphasize and exaggerates achievements and talents
5- Emphasize and exaggerates about success, power, beauty, intelligence or romance
6- Has high and unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment
7- Demands constant attention, affirmation and positive reinforcement from others
8- Is jealous and selfish (self-centered)
9- Unable to have empathy and disregards others feelings.
10- Is obsessive with own self-interest
Also, narcissists are usually physically attractive and
charming at first glance, so they may have advantages
when they first meet people.
The abuse could take a place within family, social gathering,
workplace and so on yet abuse might not be ever private
because such individual will seek attention and affirmation.
Another reason also would be the fear (internal fear) caused
by inferior character of narcissist . Basically such individual will
make sure to put you down through pointing out your mistake
or your life transition and so on. Or such individual will make
sure to point out own achievements and success and …..
Unfortunately narcissism is so common in our society that
most often individual could slips under the rather and
become undetected.
I personally call it toxic personality and attitude in which is
really harmful to others.
To protect yourself from such toxic environment developed
by the narcissist individual you might take dramatic action such as:
1-Discontinue any relation with narcissist person and its
environment in which he or she operates and have control.
2-Maintain your boundary
3-Do not think you could change individual or its environment
4-Do not attempt to reason with narcissist individual
5-Maintain your confident and self-esteem
6-Become aware of your emotional hurt, trauma, abuse experiences
7-Seek help
8-You could forgive yet, do not forget abusive perspective of the a narcissist person
Unfortunately her and now as I am writing this short blog I am noticing
that narcissistic abuse indeed was and (is) among my own family.
Of course recognized unofficially and denied officially by the individual and family members!
Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani
Gestalt Ottawa
Clinical Hypnosis
Art Therapist
www.gestaltottawa.com
gestalt@gestaltottawa.com
Resources: Psychology Today