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Archive for the 'Couple Relationship' Category
15Nov16 It is hard to discover and recognize unhealthy relationship
Couple Relationship
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Most often abuse will take an effect in private and
isolated place and this will takes a way chance and
opportunity to affirm matter of abuse.
First step of controlling partner is to make sure and
establish ISOLATION. This isolation will start within:
Time, Space and Place.
At First would be indirect impose of those restrictions
and taking away of free float of those elements,
(individual will not have time for self, will not have own
space and will not have a place to go.Then would change
into formal request by controlling partner.
Of course these are the first sign of extending unhealthy
relationship after successfully imposing those restrictions
in regard to: Time. Space and Place. Such unhealthy
relation would extend itself into deeper and personal
conflict in partner who is being controlled.

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03Oct16 Suicide
Art Therapy Clinical Hypnosis Couple Relationship General Gestalt Methodology LGB Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Philosophy
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we talk about suicide, affect of it,
hear about it yet, cannot fully understand
uniqueness of each cases, which
started from mild depression

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani
Gestalt Ottawa
Gestalt Therapy
Clinical Hypnosis
Art therapy

www.gestaltottawa.com

03Oct16 Relationship
Couple Relationship
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Most often couples wanting and trying
too hard to communicate one with other
in a way they forget that sometimes it
is okay to be quite, have their own space,
experience peace by the self. It is
alright to sit beside each other and enjoy
without verbal communication even though
you could have some disagreement.

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani
Gestalt Ottawa
Gestalt Therapy
Clinical Hypnosis
Art therapy

www.gestaltottawa.com

29Aug15 Judging
Couple Relationship General Gestalt Methodology LGB Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Philosophy
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Judging others is the act of self reflection
Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani

Gestalt Ottawa

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gestalt@gestaltottawa.com

10Jul15 Narcissistic Abuse
Couple Relationship General Gestalt Methodology Psychoanalysis
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To understand Narcissistic abuse you got to know the
definition of narcissistic personality disorder.
Individuals with narcissistic personality disorder always
all the time believe that the world revolves around them.
They have inflated self-image, over confident, they are
unable to empathize with others, unable to accept any
constructive criticism, they are highly manipulative,
and perfectionist and list go on.
To understand more, you got to know the symptoms
of narcissistic individual and below are some that you are reading:
Symptoms
1-Individual will react to any constructive criticism with anger
2- Uses others to reach his or her planned goal.
3- Emphasize and exaggerates own importance
4- Emphasize and exaggerates achievements and talents
5- Emphasize and exaggerates about success, power, beauty, intelligence or romance
6- Has high and unreasonable expectation of favorable treatment
7- Demands constant attention, affirmation and positive reinforcement from others
8- Is jealous and selfish (self-centered)
9- Unable to have empathy and disregards others feelings.
10- Is obsessive with own self-interest
Also, narcissists are usually physically attractive and
charming at first glance, so they may have advantages
when they first meet people.
The abuse could take a place within family, social gathering,
workplace and so on yet abuse might not be ever private
because such individual will seek attention and affirmation.
Another reason also would be the fear (internal fear) caused
by inferior character of narcissist . Basically such individual will
make sure to put you down through pointing out your mistake
or your life transition and so on.  Or such individual will make
sure to point out own achievements and success and …..
Unfortunately narcissism is so common in our society that
most often individual could slips under the rather and
become undetected.
I personally call it toxic personality and attitude in which is
really harmful to others.
To protect yourself from such toxic environment developed
by the narcissist individual you might take dramatic action such as:
1-Discontinue any relation with narcissist person and its
environment in which he or she operates and have control.
2-Maintain your boundary
3-Do not think you could change individual or its environment
4-Do not attempt to reason with narcissist individual
5-Maintain your confident and self-esteem
6-Become aware of your emotional hurt, trauma, abuse experiences
7-Seek help
8-You could forgive yet, do not forget abusive perspective of the a narcissist person
Unfortunately her and now as I am writing this short blog I am noticing
that narcissistic abuse indeed was and (is) among my own family.
Of course recognized unofficially and denied officially by the individual and family members!
Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani
Gestalt Ottawa
Clinical Hypnosis
Art Therapist
www.gestaltottawa.com
gestalt@gestaltottawa.com
Resources: Psychology Today

 

08Jun15 Aggression and Appetitive aggression
Couple Relationship General Psychoanalysis
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I was reading an article about aggression and I came across
with subject of appetitive aggress. I started looking and
searching for this subject. This short article is sum of my
understanding of subject matter of aggression and
appetitive aggression.

Aggression is instinct feeling of animals and humans.
The only differences between animal and human aggression
is displayed behaviour by these two living being.

Human used aggression for living (hunting) then
become part of human characters. Aggressive behaviour of
human has progressed and became as strategy for imposing
violence against other human. Some believe that:
“The legacy of the development of hunting behavior is proposed
to be an appetitive reward-driven mechanism that responds to
hunting-related cues such as blood and cries of the prey animal.
This in turn has become adapted, through exposure to
cruelty-related cues, to the suffering of human Even though
this phenomenon has been widely described for forms collective
violence, no empirical data on its structure, function,
phenomenology, and neurobiological mechanisms have
thus far been undertaken.”

Appetitive aggression is viewed as the act of violence
and harm to a victim for the experiencing violence and related
enjoyment and pleasure of having control.

Basically appetitive aggression is goal oriented and planned
aggression towards others.

Definition of violence could be interpreted very broadly
such as emotional, physical, financial, sexual and cultural and
lists go on yet, there is not any internationally recognized
version of defining aggression that I know of it.

Most possibly lack of such international definition is causing
by powerful countries in the world which they are involved in
constant act of war against other countries!

Aggression defined as the influential (active/appetitive/destructive)
and the reactive (hostile/affective/defensive/retaliatory) in contrast.

It is important to understand that there is distinction between aggression
and appetitive aggression. However such distinction until now has
no tool for assessment as far I know.

I believe this comes down on differences of individual thought and
behaviour along with society’s systematic acceptance and behaviour
in this regard.

Of course there is some instrument for the assessment of aggressive
behaviour of individual in which mentioned items, some around 12 or
29 items are just for self-inventory and could use for aggression and hostility.

A mentioned item has been proven to be useful in guiding psychological
research and has served to develop prevention and treatment programs
for abnormal aggressiveness behaviour.

Now the question will remain that what is normal aggressive behaviour?
Or what is abnormal aggressive behaviour?

Aggression In war zone and affected places as well as international violence
are categorized by amount and degree of violence.

Violence has own cycle of experience in which gets broader as result of fear
and aggressive environment that purposefully facilitate for development of
such behaviour in war zone.

In war zone conditions that lead to an outbreak of mass violence, genocide,
rape and other controlling methods that shape the attacker behavior throughout
politics, cultures and most recently extremists using violent perspective of religion
as a control mechanism by imposing mass violence, genocide and rape of the ordinary people.

In conclusion measuring appetitive aggression is taking place within aggressive behaviour
scale based on theory rather than technicality and experience.
More so value base of such assessment scale is based on former conflict zone
in region not present one and that is how accuracy of such assessment
will remain questionable.

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani

Gestalt Ottawa and Clinical Hypnosis
Art Therapist

26May15 Cognitive Restructuring
Couple Relationship General Gestalt Methodology Psychoanalysis
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Cognitive restructuring is replacing negative
and unhelpful thoughts with the positive and
helpful thought.

In this approach some necessary steps needed to take
for restructuring thoughts and also behavior in which
could call behaviour modification.

1: Having very detail information
2: Becoming aware of environmental factors
3: Identifying and recognizing emotions, reactions
4: Rating intensity of emotion (SUDS)

SUDS is, subjective units of distress scale

5: Identifying thoughts that is associated with
negative emotions, reactions, automated thought

Most often change of perception will happen after identifying
and recognizing associated thought and behaviour
6: Gathering evidence that supports thought and behaviour
7: looking into a existence or generated options

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani

Gestalt Ottawa and Clinical Hypnosis
Art Therapy

01May15 EGo-Dystonic & Ego-Syntonic
Couple Relationship Gestalt Methodology Psychoanalysis
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Ego-dystonic: “is a sign, symptom or
experience which the patient finds
uncomfortable or doesn’t want.”

Ego-syntonic: “is a sign, symptom,
or experience which the patient finds
acceptable and consistent with his personality.
” Nicholas G. Ward”

Like people who are aware of their OCD,

Like people with neurosis character and behaviour

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani

Gestalt Ottawa
Clinical Hypnosis
Art Therapist

www.gestaltottawa.com
gestalt@gestaltottawa.com

Phone; 613-2602604

10Apr15 Histrionic Personality Disorder
Clinical Hypnosis Couple Relationship General Gestalt Methodology Psychoanalysis
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Histrionic personality disorder is pattern of attention seeking
behaviour and extreme emotionality.

Individual with this disorder wants to be the center of attention,
in group or with people and feel uncomfortable when they are not.

They have difficulty when people aren’t focused exclusively on them.

Individual with this disorder may being perceived as shallow,
sexually seductive or provocative behaviour to draw attention
to oneself is another way of achieving such attention.

In this case individuals might have difficulty achieving
emotional intimacy in romantic or sexual relationships.

Individual will attempt seek control of partner through
emotional manipulation or would display dependency
on partner at another level.

This disorder would cause losing friends by constant
demand of attention, or provocative behaviour that
might perceived as threatening to friends.

Individual will often suffer from social anxiety,
depression when is not center of attention.

Individual with histrionic personality disorder might
desire novelty, inspiration, and excitement and on
the other hand individual become any usual routine.

Individuals is often intolerant, frustrated by situations when
cannot achieve immediate satisfaction of desired attention.

In terms of work individual with this disorder might initiate
project with extreme enthusiasm yet, such excitement might
die fairly quickly.

In relationship a long term one might become subject of negligence
for new relationship because of new excitement.

This personality disorder is a pattern continuation of inner self experience
and behabviour that is mostly rooted in the individual’s culture and adolescence
or early adulthood.

Working within CBT with such individual is not recommended
because is affected by interpersonal functioning or instinct
control (impulses).
Treatment of individual with this disorder requires testing, seeing psychiatrist
and long term therapy sessions requires.

Razi Ghaemmagham Farahani

Gestalt Ottawa
Clinical Hypnosis & Art
Therapy

www.gestaltottawa.com
gestalt@gestaltottawa.com

Phone: 613-2602604

 

19Jan15 Notes On Fondamental Support Of the Contact Process
Couple Relationship Gestalt Methodology Psychoanalysis
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Laura Perls wrote:
” when I announced last term that I intended to have a
workshop on contact and support functions, someone made the
remark that I would have to very careful not to re-introduce a split
inot the holistice concept of the functioning of the organism.

Well, I don’t think that the assumption of support and contact
functions constitutes a dichotomy, but rather a differentiation
according to the figure/ground principle.

Support and contact are not separate problem on the purely
instinctual level; at a more primitive stage of biological
development, there is more confluence. Stages of development
span over the worm, four-footer, ape to man with his developed
cortex and upright posture where step by step the state of pure
confluence withdraws.

All who have had some experience of Gestalt therapy, either
students or as patients, are familiar with the concept of contact.

Contact is the recognition of “otherness,” the awareness of
difference. It is the boundary experience of “I and the other.”
I would differentiate between “being in contact” and “making contact.”

Being in contact indicates a continuing state which gradually tends
toward indifference (confluence).
Making Contact is a foreground function, alert, awake, etc.

It requires a specific awareness of contact, e.g., of a
specific object, activity, etc.
For this reason, orientation and manipulation
happen by way of a specific organ or specifically
structured activity.

At the same time, consititutional factors, primary
physiology, posture as well as acquired habits which become
automatic and thus equivalent to primary physiology,
play and decisive role.

Support for making contact comes from what has been
assimilated and integrated. The rest of the organism is
background function, normally unawares,
taken for granted, but indispensable support for the
foreground function of contact”.

 
 
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