Gestalt Ottawa

Hypnosis and Habit disorder
JUDSON B. REANEY WROTE:

In common usage, “habit” is defined
as “a settled disposition or tendency
to act in a certain way, especially one
acquired by frequent repetition of the
same act” (Onions 1955).

Understanding of The Self

None of us are immune from any unpleasant
life events that could cripple our emotional,
physical and mental wellbeing. Having said
that, some of us are equipped with an internal
tool to cope with such unpleasant events that
called resiliency. And others need to understand
self and equip themselves with such tool for
coping with unpleasant events of their lives.
And perhaps all of us need to reflect on our
lives to understand more about self and needed
cope-mechanism in case of sudden and unpleasant
events dramatically unfolds in our lives. It is
important to know, understanding of our emotional
disturbance is the first steps to recognize needing
professional help. It is true that we can understand
our difficulties and it is true that we mostly will
need professional help in a deeper level that could
makes us to go back to our functional lives. However,
information given in this article might help us to
recognize possible needs for getting help.
This short article is all about how to evaluate and
understand ourselves to know in which category we have
difficulty to function. We might also assume all these
categories are relating to each other which is true, yet,
getting rid of one conflict will help us to deal with few
others easily and profoundly.  We have built a foundation
for understanding of our difficulties categorically,
internally and systematically within core of ourselves.
Well at this point I like to mention few points that will
help us to get glimpse of categories that I was talking
about those. The most and an important element is being
aware of self, it’s boundaries and directions. This will
bring us to regulating, learning and attention to the
needed information internal and externally that is
enabling us to form skills for required tasks, multiple
way of doing things and most importantly learning from our
experience. Now the point comes to communication by the
self and others. This will enable us to understand, communicate
in a variety levels such as verbal and nonverbal, being able to
understand our lives in a symbolic way, reflecting in our lives
and understanding of our social and personal interaction.
We also need to recognize and identify our differentiation
by being able to distinguish circumstances of the self from
fantasy and reality, past and future and present moment.
I most often work with imagination and I believe imagination
is the way of understanding behaviour, desire, needs, wants,
goals, beliefs and in general it is image of our mental state
that I consider. We most often talk about self-esteem and
level and quality of it. This is helping us to develop sense
of control in which must not be out of reality and not be viewed
unrealistically either. The matter of impulses that we all
experience internally time to time would reflect externally
that the self must be able to control and regulate according
to appropriate behaviour and adopted with social norms.
Self regulation in this matter is the key point.
Defense mechanism of us depends on our ability to express and cope.
Therefore, inappropriate cope or defense mechanisms will allow us
to wrongly replace our impulses with defense mechanism.
That is when we find ourselves in trouble. We also have the ability
to adopt with any new environment accordingly and when this adaptation
abilities and skills do not exist, then the self will be lost in
confusion by not being able to define self, self’s properties and its
boundaries. I realize that the above points are not giving the complete
picture of our self evaluation yet; these points are basic, short and
important that would help us to understand and reflect in our lives.
Just going through above matters even in the surface of it, will give
us an idea how we are dealing with ourselves and possible emotional
disturbance in our lives journey.

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